Why your online community is like a beautiful woman

by Martin Reed on 7 April 2008 in Articles

A community is like a beautiful woman

Your may not realise this, but your online community is just like a beautiful woman. This article will explain why.

Treat her well and you will be rewarded

A beautiful woman, just like any other, wants to be treated well. She wants to be respected, she wants to be listened to, and she wants to be appreciated. So does your online community – it demands ongoing attention and your members need to be listened to and feel valued.

Treat your online community well. Take a long-term approach to its development and you are far more likely to succeed. Just as if you neglect your partner, if you neglect your community, you can expect the relationship to come to a swift, traumatic end.

Keep her interested

Being dull and boring doesn’t normally cut it in a relationship. You want to attract and retain her attention, and one of the best ways of doing this is by experimenting. Try new things – don’t be afraid to leave your comfort zone every now and then. Have an open mind; who knows what rewards that may bring? Just make sure the relationship doesn’t turn stale. If it does though, remember that you can always kick it back into life!

Beauty has to be seen to be appreciated

So she is the most beautiful woman in the world, but if nobody can see that beauty, it’s wasted. Make sure your site looks good but don’t obsess over every little detail until you have an appreciative audience. Design your site, ensure it is usable, memorable and original. Then go out and find people who will appreciate the beauty!

Being beautiful doesn’t make you popular

No matter how beautiful a woman is, it doesn’t automatically make her popular. Being beautiful is a great advantage to have, but if that’s all your community has going for it, you aren’t going to find yourself in a happy relationship. Friends are more important than superficial beauty – find a good bunch of loyal, friendly members for your community and it will soon gain in popularity.

Beauty is not a substitute for personality

Beauty will only get you so far. A beautiful woman certainly attracts attention, but how long can she hold it for? A beautiful woman without a personality is a disappointment – make sure your community has its own unique personality that attracts and retains members. It is extremely important that your online community has its own unique personality – it will differentiate your site from the competition and lure in new members. Being beautiful isn’t everything, you know!

You will not always get along

It doesn’t matter how beautiful she is, you have to accept that every now and then you will argue. Sometimes you won’t see eye to eye, no matter how much you want to. This is normal in a relationship, and your online community will be no different.

Sometimes you will feel like throwing in the towel – you will lose motivation because you are finding it hard to attract members, encourage them to post or come back to your site. Don’t give up!

Every now and then you may even argue with one or two of your members (although you should always try to avoid non-constructive, personal arguments). At times like these, you just need to take a deep breath, clear your mind and keep your cool. You’ll soon remember the positives in your relationship.

You will have to deal with jealousy

As your community grows, you may have to deal with jealousy. Perhaps some abusive members that you one banned have decided to set up their own renegade community. It probably isn’t succeeding, whilst yours is. Prepare for jealousy. Just as people may be jealous when they see a beautiful woman who is unattainable, disgruntled members or even struggling competitors may experience the same feelings.

Your thoughts

This article could have worked just as well titled, ‘Your online community is like a beautiful man’, but hey, I’m a guy and it was far more motivational to have the image of a beautiful woman facing me as I wrote this post!

Anyway, as always, please share your thoughts and opinions on this article by leaving a comment below.

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Sue @ TameBay April 7, 2008 at 12:11 pm

You do know Swiss Tony from The Fast Show, don’t you? :-D

Michelle from the Coulee Region April 7, 2008 at 2:43 pm

LOL! Awesome post. I never thought of it like that but you are so right.


Amish Made Furniture April 7, 2008 at 3:05 pm

I am stunned at the response from the two ladies! I would have expected some “how chauvinistic!” kind of comments from the fair sex.
Be that as it may be, quite an apt comparison. Great post.

T.Thion April 7, 2008 at 5:20 pm

Ok, maybe this will be little spammy comment, but I have to say this: I love the picture :D.

Chris Guthrie April 8, 2008 at 1:05 am

Well said. I have a few forums that were beautiful at one time but their beauty has not increased with age.

Unfortunately members simply started to become more and more unruly.

Edward April 8, 2008 at 8:27 am

wow!!! i never came across any such article that understood the way of maintaining an online community so well.

Mr Woc April 8, 2008 at 4:00 pm

lol great post, I particularly liked the bit about jealousy, interesting point and one I have experianced myself !


Michelle from the Coulee Region April 8, 2008 at 4:29 pm

Nah, I didn’t think it was chauvinistic at all. I thought it was quite insightful.


Furniture Store April 8, 2008 at 6:15 pm

The title of that post took me aback a bit, but then when i read it, it did make a lot of sense, especially the bit about beauty needing personality to hold the interest. And the ensuing comments also made for some very interesting reading :)

Martin Reed - Blog Author April 8, 2008 at 10:09 pm

Sue – Swiss Tony?!? What are you suggesting?!?

Ramana – Well, the article was intended to be very tongue-in-cheek, but nonetheless I still think it conveys some important points.

Thion – Well I had to find a picture to go with the post, didn’t I?!? I will admit that it was one of the more enjoyable image searches!

Chris – Ha; good point. Perhaps I should have included a point that beauty can fade over time!

Edward – Glad you enjoyed ;)

Woc – Ah, the green eyed monster! A very destructive beast.

Michelle – I am glad you saw the article for what it was, and didn’t take any offence!

Reena – I’ll admit that I deliberately wrote this article to attract attention. Nonetheless, I think it raises some valid points, albeit in a tongue-in-cheek fashion!

Jesse April 9, 2008 at 8:44 am

well spoken and nicely articulated. i hope people start caring about the sites in a manner that befits a woman.

Eva White April 10, 2008 at 4:58 am

I loved your article. Well for all those men who give their online community more importance than their women. I would like to change the title a bit by saying, “Keep your women like your online community”. Hmmmmmm…..It can work both ways.

Nicole Price April 11, 2008 at 8:10 pm

I’m sure the page must have gotten a lot of links all thanks to the catchy title. Does make sense on reading as well, so definitely not a misguiding title.

kevin in bellingham April 12, 2008 at 3:01 am

Great post! Its pretty darn true too and thats what make it so good. I like anything we can talk about and it leads to a beautiful women. Have a good day..

Martin Reed - Blog Author April 15, 2008 at 11:06 am

Jesse – Let’s hope so!

Eva – Ha, yes the title could easily be manipulated and carry the same message; it took me a while to settle on the one I finally used!

Nicole – I love catchy titles, but it is important that you are then able to deliver on the promise! Thanks for the reassurance that I managed to do just that.

Kevin – Glad you enjoyed the article. Thanks for your comment.

Kelly April 24, 2008 at 3:51 pm

I liked this part of the article: “So she is the most beautiful woman in the world, but if nobody can see that beauty, it’s wasted”. It´s really so!
The site can looks good but we shouldn’t obsess over every little detail until we have an appreciative audience. People can design the site, but ensure that it is usable, memorable and original. Then we should go out and find people who will appreciate the beauty!

Martin Reed - Blog Author April 25, 2008 at 4:38 pm

Kelly – Content is more important than design, just as the mind is more important than the attractiveness of the face!

Tom Humbarger May 6, 2008 at 5:24 pm

Great post…you forgot “You have to work hard at making the relationship last”.

Martin Reed - Blog Author May 12, 2008 at 7:41 pm

Tom – Thanks for your comment. Good point; if you don’t work hard, the relationship will certainly not work into the long term!

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